This post is part of the A to Z Challenge. Each post will be associated with a letter of the alphabet with the theme ‘Malaysiana‘
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There are headhunting tribes documented in many countries around the world – Taiwan, New Zealand, India and also Malaysia. In Malaysia, the headhunting tribe is known as Iban or sea dayaks (sea people). Most Ibans are from Sarawak, located on the island of Borneo.

There were many reasons for why the Ibans mounted headhunting expeditions – avenging theft or murder, being the dominant reason. Another equally important reason the Iban men headhunted was that the Iban women showed a preference for a man who’s able to give proof of his bravery by killing one of the enemy. In this instance, I suppose, the enemy’s head was more valuable to the woman being courted, than a bunch of roses!
When I was writing this post, I found out that there’s a legend related among the Ibans as a reason for this custom –
Once upon a time, a young man loved a maiden, but she refused to marry him until he had brought to her some proof of what he was able to do. He went out hunting and killed a deer, and brought it to her, but still she would have nothing to say to him. He went again into the jungle, and, to show his courage fought and killed an orangutan, and brought it home as proof of his courage; but still she turned away from him. Then, in anger and disappointment, he rushed out and killed the first man he saw, and, throwing the victim’s head at the maiden’s feet, he blamed her for the crime she had led him to commit. To his surprise, she smiled on him, and said to him that at least, he had brought her a worthy gift, and she was ready to marry him.
Okay, so that also proved that us Iban women are bloodthirsty. Yes, us. I’m Iban 🙂
Of course, headhunting is no longer being practiced by the Ibans (As far as I’m aware) as it was banned by Sir James Brooke, the first White Rajah of Sarawak, in the 1800s. So, the Iban women had to settle for receiving something else other than heads, I suppose.
A long time ago, my father told me that our family has kept the heads of our enemies, heads that were cut by my ancestors. I’ve never seen them as the heads are in my father’s longhouse which is deep in the interior of Sarawak. Undoubtedly, I’m curious about these “heirlooms”. I’m also curious as to how many of these heads were used to win the hand of Iban maidens in the family.
Oh wow! What a fascinating post! Thanks so much for sharing that. Hopefully one day you’ll get to see those “heirlooms”. The history behind it is very interesting!
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Hi Kim! Errr…not sure if I want to see those heirlooms or not actually 😀
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Haha! 🙂
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I think it’s kinda exciting having such a dangerous friend! 😬
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Not dangerous now anymore ;P
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Wow, this surprised me! I wouldn’t had married that man, never.
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Well Eva, those were very different times apparently
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😀
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This brings back memories of my Introduction to Anthropology course in college. The Professor Vinson Sutlive wrote a book entitled The Iban of Sarawak and referred to the people frequently in his lectures. He also told deliciously horrid puns.
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Wow, it’s interesting to learn that the Iban featured quite prominently during your course in college 🙂
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This is so new to me, I loved reading about the tribes. I felt like reading some weird accounts, but then understood how much we are unaware of
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Yes, the world is a big place and despite technology, we still are unaware of a great many things!
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Great post! What a fascinating and educational read.
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Thank you! Writing these posts have been educational for me too!
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Definitely a heady post! 😉 It would be really interesting to see the heirlooms! And find out the history of each one.
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A heady post hehe You’re right. I doubt if there’s anyone left to be able to give the history of each of the heirlooms as our history are mostly passed down through spoken tales or songs, not written.
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But there might be! It would be a fascinating project to interview the elders to hear the stories! 🙂
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I know! But I’m not too fluent in my father’s language so I’d have to bring a translator…
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That’s fascinating — thanks for sharing!
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Hehe happy to introduce our culture to you!
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I thought this was going to be about recruitment haha! great post – I loved the back story
Debbie
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I laugh everytime a recruitment headhunter calls me because I wonder if they realise they’re speaking to an actual descendant of a headhunter! 😀
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Well, I think this wins for family heritage posts I’ve read today on my A to Z surf 🙂
That said, fascinating post and look into a culture’s past practice.
And for what it’s worth, I’m suddenly just fine with being marketed “diamonds are forever”.
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Haha yes, I found that aspect of the courting tradition slightly disconcerting…
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I hope my husband sticks to flowers. Interesting post. WeekendsInMaine
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Haha I hope so too 🙂
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[…] (too-wak) is a popular Iban rice wine made from glutinous rice and homemade yeast. It’s normally made for Gawai or the […]
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So very interesting!
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Thank you!
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Great story…
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